I wrote this a few years ago. How I could add to this list of worries now!! We ALL could! But the truth of what helps-is still the truth…
I stood looking in the mirror trying to pull out yet another, wild, gray hair when I realized I couldn’t see the thing without my reading glasses!
However, I did notice, I could clearly see the deep wrinkles on my forehead, and around my eyes, even without my new readers.
Where have the years gone? My recent hysterectomy has cured my hot flashes, but I now know the meaning of muffin top—and I don’t mean the kind you can get at Panera!
To tell you the truth, I could almost be distracted by my aging body if it weren’t for my rapidly, changing life.
It seems my kids have grown up without even asking my permission, in the proverbial blink of an eye, and are leaving my nest.
No one asked me if I were ready for all of this, or properly warned me it was coming. I do admit I totally ignored all those folks saying, “Your kids will grow up so fast” over the years. I’m not ready and looking at my retirement account it isn’t ready either for the number of candles on my cake!
And if you give me a few more moments, I could list many more things that, if I’m not careful, could tempt me into hosting my own pity-party like: aging parents, aches and pains in diverse places, a husband complaining of a balding head and nose hairs (what?) and many more life changes!
I can laugh at some of it; but, to be honest, I am also crying. I feel really sad. You know “sad” like a good-cry might help but only temporarily.
As I lay in bed the other night, I began talking to my Father over the sounds of my sweet husbands’ increasing-with-age snores.
I began telling God how I felt: “I am not ready for my kids to be so grown-up and on their own. I even miss the chaos of little muddy feet and balls being thrown in my house. I miss holding them. I wonder just how far away they will move, and though I am happy for all of their opportunities, I miss them; and a couple of them haven’t even left yet.”
I know God has been faithful in the past, but can He help me with this sadness and this new host of emotions?
As I lay there in the dark it hit me… God isn’t just the God of “He did” or “He is”. He is also the God of “He will” and “He can”.
He hasn’t taken away the emotions. He hasn’t shown me how we will walk together in joy in this new phase of life, but He assured me He is already there, that He is enough for my sad momma heart and that He will help me rest.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matt 11:28
Although, we women get stuck with the title of the “emotional ones”, God chose to tell us about one of His men with a few up and down emotions.
In Psalm 13:2, David writes: “How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart? How long will my enemies triumph over me?”
When David wrote this, his enemies were encamped around him. He was depressed and afraid, and in his mind he wrestled with his fears.
Only after telling God of his worries did his emotions shift.
David ended the Psalm by saying,
“But I trust in your unfailing love, and my heart rejoices in your salvation. I will sing to the Lord for he has been good to me” (Psalm 13:5-6).
Once again, God was using His Word to encourage me and to help me see how to find hope and rest despite my sadness.
In these few short verses, we see a prescription for battling the thoughts and worries that overcome us:
- Give your burden to God. Tell Him what you are worried about.
- State your trust in God and focus not on your problem but on His character and capability – not your character and ability or the way you feel at the moment.
- Realize your ultimate salvation is already secured. The most important battle is already won and problems and emotions real and perceived will not always plague you.
- Remember God’s faithfulness in the past and praise Him for He will not forsake you in the future either. Trust that He will give you rest.
And so the God of “He did” and “He Is” is also the God of “He will” and “He can” for every emotion and every circumstance that will come my way….and your way.
And for what it is worth… bangs cover a multitude of wrinkles.
(Originally posted 2015)