For Christian parents whose children say they are gay. A response to Jen Hatmaker’s celebration of her daughter “coming out”

Oh Momma. You aren’t alone. God is with you.

I know your heart is breaking. You don’t know who you can trust with the painful situation your family is facing.

And you are a Christian.

Your child has decided they are gay.

And you raised them in church.

Your dreams feel shattered. You question every decision you made throughout the years. You wonder where you went wrong.

You blame yourself. You blame your husband. He blames you. You fight. A lot and this just feels way too hard.

And you are a Christian.

You wonder where God is in all of this.

And you feel so alone.

It’s often a silent pain. Many are too afraid to share what’s breaking their hearts.

And the enemy loves that.

Because he has come to rob, kill and destroy —and not just your kid, but your family, your marriage, the church and our country.

But you are not alone. Your kid is not the only one who is being deceived. Your family is not the only family who is struggling. It’s an epidemic.

Many others have been deceived and are being deceived . A popular religious speaker and author, Jen Hatmaker, is currently celebrating her daughters “coming out” and threatening to block and delete anyone who refutes her or tries to use “Bible-splaining”.

Other Christian parents have faced this too. But they’ve chosen the better way. They’ve chosen to trust God more than they trust this world and our culture and they’ve fought FOR their kids with love AND truth.

Yes, it’s gut-wrenchingly hard… but it’s not too hard for God. Not even this.

But you have to put on your spiritual armor and hold on to truth! You’ve got to trust God, and keep trusting Him, more than you trust your feelings or anything else.

The lost world will tell you are loving them if you celebrate their decision to walk in what God calls sin as a lifestyle—but to do so is NOT love.

For when we love others, we want them to walk away from sin that will hurt them.

Whether that sin is heterosexual, or homosexual sin, does not make any difference.

Our job as parents is to always love our kids AND point them to truth. Biblical truth.

And when we do, great things still happen.

Is it easy? NOT AT ALL.

But, I will also tell you this, I’ve heard story after story of Christian parents who loved their kids, mbut not the sin. They didn’t celebrate or accept the sin and they have seen their children saw walk away from the lie of sin and walk in real freedom and true joy.

I’ve seen pictures from their engagements and weddings. I’ve seen photos of their grand babies.

I have listened as moms encourage other momma’s hearts to hold on, to keep praying, to keep speaking truth about sin-whatever that sin may be— because that is part of truly loving those kids God has entrusted to us.

For those in the battle right now—I know you feel alone. The evil one wants you to feel this way and give up.

But hold on!

May God give you a few friends to share your pain and cover you in prayer.

May He remind you that He loves your kid even more than you do.

May He protect your marriage.

And may He bring victory. May He help you believe that He can bring good from what the enemy intends for evil.

May God restore the years the locust has eaten with rivers of joy!

Oh friend, keep trusting and believing God. That’s where the hope is…